Who & What we are
You are what your deep driving desire is; As your deep driving desire is, so is your will; As your will is so is your deed; As your deed is so is your destiny.
The Upanishads (Ancient Hindu Scripture)
We are not victims of circumstance. Our realities are of our own making.
Regardless of our outward circumstances we have the ability to create a
state of calm, peace, serenity, meaning & purpose.
Whether we are happy or sad, angry or content, discontent or at peace is
determined entirely by our own action of thought. It is in not having a
purposeful thought life that we find ourselves enmeshed in turmoil, self pity
The Apostle Mark tells of Jesus facing a tremendous storm with high waves
& winds buffeting the small boat they were in, Jesus did not become
concerned; He simply faced the storm and said, "peace be still," & there
was immediate calm.
As the storms of life come we have the power to face them as well.
We have the ability to speak to them saying, "peace be still."
I challenge each of us to practice this principle, when you are troubled,
feeling overwhelmed as if the weight of the world is upon you speak to
the problem (problems) and command them to be at peace. Sometimes we
will need be speak this to our own hearts & minds.
Whether the storm is worry, depression, anger, confusion, turmoil, perceived
lack or need, all we need do is speak "peace be still" and we will know
You may think this is to simple or that you do not have the needed ability
but I say without hesitation or doubt that if you will put this principle to the
test it will never fail.
Who & what we are hinges on our willingness to take responsibility & right
action. Taking command of our destiny can be frightening. Assuming
accountability for our life eliminates excuses and blame. Once we recognize
that our reality is of our own making it places firmly upon our shoulders the
responsibility of determining all that we do & the subsequent consequences.
One kind word can warm three winter months.
Like ripples on the water a kind word reaches
distant shores not perceived.
We are meant to give love and kindness
to all. A kind word is the easiest and
most readily available way of expressing the
love within us.
We are taught that like a pie we only have so
many pieces of ourselves to go around, this is
a false teaching and needs to be erased from
our belief system.
Love, like a river replenishes itself as soon
as it is released. The more you give the more you
find you have to give.
Unconditional love, is love given without any
thought given to its return.
Mature love is given in the knowing that as
you give love it is immediately rewarded in the giving.
The giving of love is the most self loving and
nurturing act one can perform.
Loving others is in truth, loving ones self.
As you love, you become loveable.
Practice the art of kindness, give love freely. In this
way store up treasures in heavenly places and sleep
peacefully amidst this chaotic world.
Sometimes our light goes out but is blown into a flame by another
human being. Each of us owes deepest thanks to those who
have rekindled this light.
Albert Schweitzer (1875-1965, German Born Medical Missionary, Theologian, Philosopher
There are many great truths; but perhaps no greater truth than to recognize and
embrace the truth that we need each other.
If we acknowledge and accept this truth, then the way we approach life and the people
around us must and will change as well, in turn the way others respond to us will change.
Instead of being jealous or envious at our neighbors successes we would
rejoice with them. Instead of coveting the possessions of others we would guard them.
Instead of selfishness, self gratification, or self obsession we would instead turn to
the needs of others, doing our utmost to insure their well being, knowing
that tomorrow we may need the same.
Who among us has not at some point in time needed and received mental, emotional or
spiritual support from our fellows that enabled us to carry on?
How many of us have been blessed with the financial stability to have never needed the help of friends and family to make it through tough times?
If we trust the spiritual truth of seed time and harvest time then we have added incentive
to extend a helping hand to one another. Planting a seed of compassion, care, empathy in the life of another must bear fruit of its own kind in our lives. It is a principle or law that what you sow you reap.
However, it is also a principle that what is sown must be done in humility seeking no
return or projecting for ourselves the fruit expected. All kindnesses done, must be done in secret without thought of reciprocation or reward. Henry Drummond in his book "The Greatest Thing in the World" says it most eloquently by stating "Humility - is to put a seal on your lips and forget what you have done."
In essence it comes down to the great lesson taught by Jesus, "Love one another."
He is not speaking of the emotional state of being in love. He instead is talking of the love that, man can give man, woman can give woman, parent can give child, stranger can give to stranger. It is to approach each other with patience, kindness, gentleness, generosity, being considerate, polite, enduring hardship and allowing for each others weaknesses and seeking nothing in return for its giving.
Once again Henry Drummond sums it up this way, "I shall pass through this world but once.
Any good thing therefore that I can do, or any kindness that I can show to any human being, let me do it now, let me not defer it or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again."
Imagine a world where all peoples lived accordingly. The peace and grace that we would know,
the abundance and prosperity that we dream of would be a reality for all. Let us vow to become this people, let the change begin here now with me and you. Start with your family and friends, let your light so shine that it will brighten every life it touches.
To give real service you must add something which cannot be bought or measured with money, and that is sincerity and integrity.
Douglas Adams 1952-, British Science Fiction Writer
I don't know what your destiny will be, but one thing I know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who will have sought and found how to serve.
Albert Schweitzer 1875-1965, Missionary, Theologian, Musician, and Philosopher
What we have done for ourselves alone dies with us; what we have done for others and the world
remains and is immortal.
Albert Pike 1809- 1891, Author, Historian
You must live for another if you wish to live for yourself.
Seneca 4 BC 65 AD, Statesman, Philosopher
One's life has value so long as one attributes value to the life of others, by means of love, friendship, indignation and compassion.
Simone De Beauvoir
1908-1986, French Novelist, Essayist
To serve is a beautiful, but only if it is done with a whole heart and joy and a free mind.
Pearl Buck 1892-1973 American Novelist
Prolonged sorrow leading to depression, self pity, and hopelessness has a most remarkable antidote, for you see this pitiful state of mind and being is brought on by self obsession. The Me, Mine, More mentality that insidiously worms its way into our hearts and minds can, and must be rectified through unselfish, unconditional service to others.
Logic dictates that if our eyes are drawn inward then we are living in a small world indeed.
The inner self is limited, its borders established by our experience. As long as our eyes
are focused thusly that inner world shrinks until it leads to despair, the light of self
eventually burns out leaving us in total darkness.
A lamp unto itself is useless, it requires an energy source.
In order to broaden our world, to walk in the light, we need look outward, seeking works of service to our fellows. This service is the energy source from which our own inner peace and harmony is derived, from which our light begins to shine through the darkness.
A false teaching/belief system that pervades our world today is that getting and having things
is the road to happiness. What bunk! While material comforts are nice they do not make for happiness. They do not contribute to who and what we are.
Albert Einstein said that "Only a life lived in service to others is worth living." Mahatma Gandhi stated that "The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in service to others."
Shall we set aside the popular notions and follow the lead of these great minds?
I hope to, and strive to with what time I have left on this earth to be a positive influence in every life I have the privilege to touch.
He who helps in the saving of others, Saves himself as well.
~ Hartmann Von Aue ~
Living creatures are nourished by food, and food is nourished by rain; rain itself is the water of life, which comes from selfless worship and service.
~ Bhagavad Gita ~
Do everything with a mind that lets go. Do not expect praise or reward.
~ Achaan Chah ~
The high destiny of the individual is to serve rather than to rule...
~ Albert Einstein ~
Be unselfish. That is the first and final commandment for those who would be useful and happy in their usefulness. If you think of yourself only, you cannot develop because you are choking the source of development, which is spiritual expansion through thought for others.
~ Charles W. Eliot ~
The true meaning of life is to plant trees, under whose shade you do not expect to sit.
~ Nelson Henderson ~
Human service is the highest form of self-interest for the person who serves.
~ Elbert Hubbard ~
Is it possible that so many bright, successful people over the ages could have been wrong? Hopefully it is evident that the path to true self fulfillment, self awareness, happiness & prosperity comes not from receiving, or striving for personal gain,
but in giving. Jesus taught that as you give you shall receive, "give and it shall be
given unto you. Good measure, pressed down and shaken together and running over
shall men give unto you." (Luke 6:38)
Recognize that this teaching, this way of life is contrary to the popular beliefs of today's society and that your flesh will battle against your giving. It requires a dedicated & committed mind to overcome the temptation to obtain & then hoard riches, this is especially true for those of us who have seemingly little.
The human contribution is the essential ingredient. It is only in the giving of oneself to others that we truly live.
Ethel Percy Andrus
The most satisfying thing in life is to have been able to give a large part of oneself to others.
Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
If you have little in the way of material possessions then what you have in abundance is yourself. Your time, your talents, gifts & skills. Hold nothing back and trust that as you give your reward will be great.
What lies behind us & What lies before us are
small matters compared to what lies within us.
I received a phone call from a person yesterday who was still clinging to a perceived
wrong done over three years ago. He could not understand how important it is to forgive the
individuals involved. It seemed beyond his comprehension as to how not responding in
anger was the only way to live peacefully today or how the only way to stop the cycle of
pain, fear & anger was to let go of the event.
In the 12 step fellowships we often here people talking about living in the present.
You can't have one foot in yesterday, and one in tomorrow if your going to succeed today.
All that we are is right now, we are not what we have been or will be.
Each moment is a building block for all that will come, if you want the future to be built
on solid a foundation then you must give this moment 100% of attention & energy.
Responding to real or perceived wrongs in anger only creates more of the same.
We mustn't allow ourselves to be deceived into holding onto self righteous indignation,
making statements such as, "you don't understand what they did to me," or "I did nothing to
deserve this," or "how could they, after all I've done for them?"
We must recognize that on this journey of life many individuals are ahead of us and many
are coming up behind us. The actions of others that creates pain is done in ignorance. We too
have made choices based on selfishness that has caused others pain, it is a natural part of the
growth process. The adage, "to err is human, to forgive divine," is a truism that has been lost
with the passing of time.
To live in peace & harmony today, letting go of yesterday's experiences and tomorrows worries
is absolutely necessary. Living in complete forgiveness of others is the key to wholeness.
Resentment clouds our ability to see clearly what we are experiencing in the now, it robs us of the
moment & warps our present reality.
Become a person of forgiveness. Total, complete forgiveness. Do not allow past
circumstances to anchor you to the soil of bitterness. Forgiveness heals the souls the
hearts & the minds of everyone it touches. Mold & shape yourself so that forgiveness
flows from within you in every circumstance.
You must begin to think of yourself as becoming the person you want to be.
Stephen Vizinczey (1933-, Hungarian Novelist)
We can let circumstances rule us, or we can take charge
and rule our lives from within.
Earl Nightingale (1921-1989, American Radio Announcer, Author, Motivator, Speaker)
Say I Can
Patience, persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success.
Believe it is possible to solve your problem. Tremendous things happen to the believer. So believe the answer will come. It will.
Norman Vincent Peale
We are what we think. All that we are arises With our thoughts.
With our thoughts, We make our world.
You are today where your thoughts have brought you;
you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.
We have not experienced the power of controlled purposeful thought. We have been taught to look outside of ourselves for the quick and easy fix.
For many who have grown up in dysfunctional family systems the answers to problems
are especially difficult to discern since the problem itself is rejected in a denial system coupled with abusive practices used to maintain the appearance of normality.
Positive, nourishing, encouraging thoughts or self talk if you will, is vital if we are to succeed in any endeavor or enterprise.
Each of us has the ability to capture and discard negative self defeating thoughts replacing them with thoughts that lead to the realization of the potential within.
Like weeding a garden this requires consistent, disciplined attention. Diligence is needed as the old thought belief system that has limited our growth in the past is deeply embedded in our minds. Pull the weeds, plant new healthy thought seed, care for the garden with prayer, patience and perseverance.
Begin with a small garden and in due season cultivate a larger plot. A good starting place is to begin the practice of removing thoughts of bitterness and resentment by following this simple recipe; “Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever, is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, let your mind dwell on these things.” [Philippians 4:8] Bible. Push out the negative destructive thoughts and reside within kind, caring thoughts of forgiveness.
Replace the self talk of it’s too hard, I can’t, I could never with I can, I am, I will!
Create for yourself a world of peace and harmony. Accept only your very best.
Take charge and determine your course.
Comfort & Friendship
Oh the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are -- chaff and grain together -- certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and with the breath of kindness blow the rest away…
~ Dinah Mulock ~
Friendship is a strong and habitual inclination in two persons to promote the good and happiness of one another. -
~ Eustace Budgell ~
A faithful friend is a strong defense: and he that hath found one hath found a treasure.
~ Bible ~
A true friend is rare indeed, and he or she provides such comfort that they cannot be compared or weighed as other earthly treasures.
A true friend acts as both a mirror and a window.
A mirror that gently reflects back to us the faults that need be overcome, and holds accountable our error in thought and action.
A window through which we are able to see the full potential that lies within us and the encouragement to achieve our very best.
The greatest surety bond to obtaining and maintaining a good friend is to be one.
There will be those who refuse to accept their honest reflection and thus reject you.
There will be those who are so damaged by negative self images that their true potential will frighten them and they too will flee from the window you provide.
Then their will be those who hunger and thirst for truth, who recognize the rare gift you offer and in turn provide a source of strength and wisdom to sustain you.
If you are lonely, if you feel lost, confused, without meaning, purpose, or direction then commit yourself to being a friend.
Upon this foundation you will most assuredly build a house that will weather the fiercest storm, and provide shelter against all adversity.
Friendship is indeed the most
precious gift one may offer another.
If I may call you friend, then
I am truly blessed.
Wisdom and understanding can only become the possession of individual men by traveling the old road of observation, attention, perseverance, and industry.
~ Samuel Smiles ~
Wisdom is the supreme part of happiness.
~ Sophocles ~
Through wisdom is a house built; and by understanding it is established; and by knowledge shall every room be filled with precious and pleasant riches.
~ Bible ~
Knowledge; coupled with the ability or capacity to utilize it, is wisdom.
Knowledge is birthed on the road of experience, it cannot be purchased or gained cheaply. Blood, sweat, and tears is the price, for without such a price wisdom
would not come.
True wisdom is always tempered by the fire of trial and tribulation.
It dictates selflessness, love, empathy, compassion, and charity.
Forged by hunger and thirst, refined by diligence and determination
it inevitably leads to the knowing that what you have is enough, and abundance
or riches is meant to be shared.
Wisdom echoes be content, live in harmony and peace.
Your place and time is common to all men no hardship, or test has befallen you
that others have not experienced, or that will not strengthen you.
Wisdom is the willingness to face all of life's storms with the full knowing
that not only will the storm pass, but as you face and overcome it you will
be perfecting the potential within you. You will come out of the storm
lacking nothing of value.
Wisdom is steadfastness and perseverance, a commitment to finish the race
without complaint or need of applause. Wisdom is humility, it gives without
want of recognition. Wisdom cherishes a friend, and gives love to an antagonist.
Wisdom embraces the rarity principle, and values every person as a unique and
Where there is charity and wisdom, there is neither fear nor ignorance. Where there is patience and humility, there is neither anger nor vexation. Where there is poverty and joy, there is neither greed nor avarice. Where there is peace and meditation, there is neither anxiety nor doubt.
~ St. Francis of Assisi ~
Luck? Baa - Humbug
What helps luck is a habit of watching for opportunities, of having a patient but restless mind, of sacrificing one's ease or vanity, or uniting a love of detail to foresight, and of passing through hard times bravely and cheerfully. ~ Victor Cherbuliez ~
There is no such thing as luck. There is the result of active faith
coupled with good works.
The only ones who credit luck for success are those who sit and watch
as others succeed, those who refuse to take responsibility for their own
inaction or wrong doing.
Our circumstances are not the result of some cosmic roll of the dice.
The life we live, and the conditions or realities that we face are the direct
result of thoughts, beliefs, attitudes and choices.
The first and greatest step in creating a life that is happy and productive
is to become wholly responsible for every aspect of the space we inhabit.
This does not mean that wrongful, hurtful, destructive things have not
happened to many of us of which we are innocent.
What it does mean is that we are completely in charge of our today,
or what and how we act, of the effect we have on others and
thus our world, our reality.
Developing the three key principle in every area of our life leads to the
success that others will undoubtedly call the result of luck.
Prayer Courage Desire Vision
Patience Commitment Determination Veracity
Perseverance Consistency Discipline Vigilance
Hope Resiliency Forgiveness Sobriety
Honesty Responsibility Faith Seeding
Humility Relentlessness Fortitude Sacrifice
Trust Growth Love Willingness
Tenacity Giving Loyalty Wisdom
Tact Goodness Longevity Worship
All of us have bad luck and good luck. The man who persists through the bad luck -- who keeps right on going -- is the man who is there when the good luck comes -- and is ready to receive it. ~ Robert Collier ~
To strive with difficulties, and to conquer them, is the highest human felicity.
Samuel Johnson (1709-1784, British Author)
You can blame your parents or others for anything and everything you feel is wrong with your life, you can feel guilty about unresolved issues, but at some point in your life you had best come to grips with the truth, that you must live your own life. Whether you were given a solid foundation or not, whether you have been unjustly abused or hurt or not.
There comes a point in time when the only way to correct or heal the past, and create a positive future is to stop blaming and begin to assume total responsibility for everything you think, do and say.
M. Scott Peck in the first sentence of chapter one in his book "The Road Less Traveled" states "Life is difficult." In the sequel "Further Along the Road Less Traveled" he begins the first chapter by saying "Life is also painful." This is the great and unrelenting truth about life, it is difficult and painful. It is also full of joy and beauty, it has many wonders waiting to be discovered, if we will but stop looking behind and begin to focus on the here and now.
The "Big Book" of Alcoholics Anonymous tells us that acceptance is the answer to all our problems today. If this is true then we must accept that life is both difficult and painful. Again M. Scott Peck suggests that if we do this, "we will transcend the difficulty." It requires much inner fortitude and determination, there are times that it seems as if the weight of our circumstances is far beyond our ability to comprehend or seemingly bear.
A favorite teacher of mine Marilyn Hickey once said, "when you've done all you can, stand." Sometimes that's all we have left at our disposal. All that remains is for us to stand upon our faith in both God and the ultimate goodness of our fellow human beings.
Stand, overcome, look forward and not behind, this is the anthem with which we must face each new day.
You can tell more about a person by what he says about others than you can by what others say about him.
~ Leo Aikman ~
Most of us are familiar with the adage that "if you haven't got something good to say about someone, say nothing at all."
How unfortunate that we seem to dwell on the negative, tearing others down instead of building them up.
It is a shallow mind indeed that clings to bitterness & resentment over the mistakes of others, it is an empty blackened heart that justifies its own sense of futility & frustration
by focusing on the error of another.
A harsh, unkind word uttered about another acts like a poison that spreads its venom
into the hearts and minds of everyone it touches. Self healing comes only through
the process of forgiveness, note that I said process, it is not enough to simply say to ones
self, "I forgive them." Praying for the offender is a step in the process but also
fully acknowledging the perceived wrong by reflecting (writing) about the experienced
pain, fear, anger, and release of the matter, then speaking only words of kindness and understanding completes the process.
If it is a truism that life is a journey then it is logical to conclude that we are all at different points along the path. There are those ahead of us, those behind and those who walk beside us. Awareness of positive and negative principles comes as we travel along our individual roads. We are in error if we judge those behind according to the same standards as those who are leading, teaching, guiding.
In the "Big Book" of AA it encourages us to "trudge the Road of Happy Destiny" (Alcoholics Anonymous "A Vision for You, Pg. 151). To trudge means to walk with purpose. If we are to enjoy the journey we have embarked upon, if we are to know peace and harmony within the inner self, then embracing the purpose of living in forgiveness and understanding becomes paramount .
Discipline the mind, discipline the tongue, eliminate the spread of hatreds venom.
Jesus taught; "Forgive and you shall be forgiven, judge not and you shall not be judged"
In the Lords Prayer He guides us to establish the standard by which we shall be held,
"Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us." A sobering thought, that mandates we be of a forgiving nature.
The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.
~ Mahatma Gandhi ~
The character ethic, which I believe to be the foundation of success, teaches that there are basic principles of effective living, and that people can only experience true success and enduring happiness as they learn and integrate these principles into their basic character.
~ Stephen R. Covey ~
This is the hypothesis of all the thoughts contained within this collection of seeds.
Life teaches the principles for effective living, the integration of those principles
comes through the repetitive practice of them in our lives.
A constant pursuit of personal excellence through the proper application of ones
skills and talents for the betterment of not only ones self, and ones family, but also
the world at large is the talisman for creating a utopian like reality.
There are universal truths (principles) that lead to peace, joy, harmony, and
fulfillment, find them, apply them, and nurture them.
Plant the seeds, carefully tend to their maturation, reap and savor the fruit.
God gives every bird a worm, but he does not throw it into the nest.
There is much confusion and misunderstanding about the way God works in our lives.
The misconception that God is going to miraculous provide our wants and needs leads many into a state of confusion, disillusionment, and eventually the abandonment of spiritual principle.
The old adage that "God helps those who helps themselves is only a partial truth."
It is true that when we approach God, or in essence, plug ourselves into the power source the divine presence and energy becomes available to us.
When we are faced with trials and tribulations this plugging in is the first step in overcoming the circumstances we face.
Faith means that we do not see the solution, we do not see the worm, but we trust that it is there. God has provided the nest, and the wings to fly.
It is in plugging in that we gain the insight and the strength to leave the nest. It is by relinquishing self-will and selfish desire that we clear a path for the divine spirit to guide us to the answers (the worm) that we seek.
It is important to know within our innermost self that God will not do for us that which we can accomplish on our own. We have all been blessed with many gifts, talents,
and abilities to overcome the challenges set before us.
We are not given more than we can handle, we are not tested beyond our abilities.
The tests, or trials that we are presented with are not meant to defeat or discourage us, but rather to mold and shape us, to help us see what the true potential within us is.
It really becomes a matter of choice. Will I choose to plug in, will I seek the guidance of divine inspiration and trust that it will be given.
It all comes down to this simple truth. How do I choose to live? Will I rely on my own limited resources. Will I choose to stay in the safety of my nest to eventually become stagnant, starving, paralyzed. Or will I make the choice to spread my wings and seek the divine answers just waiting to be discovered.
Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt, kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate.
As we grow towards becoming all that we can be, or as some would say a state of self actualization. As we learn and acquire the knowingness of what is truly valuable in life, it becomes clear that we must devote ourselves to a purposeful cause.
Devoting ourselves to love and kindness, which is what I believe is the central purpose
of our lives accomplishes great and wonderful things not only for others, but also for ourselves.
This purpose of extending love and kindness to all our fellows not only enriches their lives, but it creates an inner sense of well being, it provides a reflection of that which is truly our inner most self.
To be responsible for the small area of the planet that we each occupy and the effect our interactions have on others is to recognize the truth that we as individuals have the capacity to change the world, one life at a time.
To recognize and adhere to the truth that it is a privilege to touch the life of another and to act responsibly is key to accomplishing this world change. Greatness is not achieved in mighty deeds, rather it is the common or average person remaining steadfast and accomplishing small acts of love and kindness that creates true greatness.
We are not who or what we were in the past. We are now. We are what we create ourselves to be in this moment. Each of us has the ability to recreate ourselves by purposefully directing our thoughts, by choosing how we will treat others. It is this seemingly small principle of consciously choosing our path, and directing our footsteps that creates the reflection we see in the mirror each day.
If you want to see the reflection of a worthy, honest, successful person then choose to be a worthy, honest person striving to accomplish only good, striving to be the best you possible, each and every day.
If you feel unworthy or unsuccessful recognize that you have in all likelihood been choosing to follow a false teaching or a false belief based on carnal self-gratification that always leaves us wanting, unfulfilled. Happiness or a sense of personal accomplishment it is not gained through the acquisition of things. It is only in giving that we achieve this state of harmony and balance.
James Allen states, "A man's mind may be likened to a garden, which may be intelligently cultivated or allowed to run wild; but whether cultivated or neglected, it must, and will, bring forth. If no useful seeds are put into it, then an abundance of useless weed seeds will fall therein, and will continue to produce their kind."
Choose to be an intelligent cultivator of your garden. Choose to plant positive, nurturing, caring, loving seed so that you may reap a harvest of sweet fruit. As you do this, your outward circumstances will change and your sense of self will be one of peace and contentment. You will know that you are truly valuable, a true success.
You have it easily in your power to increase the sum total of this world's happiness now. How? By giving a few words of sincere appreciation to someone who is lonely or discouraged. Perhaps you will forget tomorrow the kind words you say today, but the recipient may cherish them over a lifetime.
~ Dale Carnegie ~
In keeping with the subject of recreating ourselves, and choosing to purposefully
guide our steps, let us look at the power of the spoken word.
Words are seeds that we plant in the gardens of others, as well as our own. They have the power to create a sense of hope, and to transform bitterness to forgiveness.
As we determine to become a caring, loving people, fixing our minds on those things
that are gentle, kind, generous, and worthy of praise thus forming the attitude with which
we approach each day, we must also determine to carefully guard the words we speak.
When young in the process of becoming the loving person we were meant to be, it is easy to fall back into old behaviors, old negative thoughts have a way of creeping back into our perceptions causing a return to destructive, angry responses.
The words we speak are reflections of our heart state. It is important to recognize that inner healing takes time, it is best therefore to hold our tongue, to take a few moments before speaking in response to others. To bridle our tongues is indicative of growing wisdom.
Words are powerful!
How we perceive ourselves, our self image, or value of self is largely determined by the words spoken to us early in life. It is unfortunate that the power of the spoken word has been ignored, and neglected. We however, have the opportunity to create a new awareness of this truth, and to become responsible speakers of positive, healthy seed.
We have thus far become aware of the truths that our hearts and minds are likened to a garden and that words are forms of seeds planted therein. Another principle that we must become aware of, and adhere to is that what you feed will grow.
We have tilled the soil of our gardens, begun the process of pulling out old useless weed seed, and planting healthy, positive seed.
We must feed, nurture, and protect the new seed by speaking encouraging words to ourselves. Yes, speak aloud to yourself each morning. Speak loving, kind thoughts and statements. This is called self affirmation. If you doubt at this point the power of the spoken word here is a test to determine the validity of my thesis. For thirty days speak out loud, with power and conviction, I am a child of God. I am worthy of the goodness in life. I am a success, I am a kind, and loving person, I speak only healthy, positive words.
You will experience the power of which I speak. You will experience the transformation and the rewards.
What we say is important... for in most cases the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.
~ Jim Beggs ~
Hope is the companion of power, and mother of success; for who so hopes strongly has within him the gift of miracles.
~ Samuel Smiles ~
All success, all joy, all feats of overcoming adversity begins first with hope.
Hope is our greatest ally, our truest friend.
Without it we are like ships being tossed helter-skelter upon the turbulent seas of life.
Keep hope alive. Nurture it, cling to it, for there will be times when it
is seemingly all you have.
Friends may abandon you, circumstances may test you, loss and grief will most
assuredly come. Keep the flame of hope burning, it will carry you through
to a new day. Of all things in this life, the surest is change. All else is transient, fleeting. We must endure the storms to bask in the sunlight.
Never give up, remain resolute in the surety, the knowingness that you have
been through many ordeals, many trials and tribulations to stand where you are
today. Though times may be hard, and your faith sorely tested, the storm will pass.
The seas will calm. Life has a miraculous way of balancing itself.
For all its pain and grief there is also great joy, for every sunset there is a sunrise.
Remember that serenity is not so much freedom from the storm, rather it is peace amidst the storm. That peace is birthed in the seed of hope. It is maintained in steadfastly
clinging to a vision. Rather than seeking shelter from the storm, embrace it. Cherish it. Be assured that in this way you are in truth beginning the process of creating the change you desire.
Protect your hope. Guard it. Let no circumstance deter you from remaining deeply entrenched within its safety. Rest within your hope. Like a cocoon it will shield you from the darkest of times. Hope is a treasure. It is the wind that fills our sails moving us towards the full realization of our potential.
Obstacles can't stop you. Problems can't stop you. Most of all, other people can't stop you. Only you can stop you.
(American author and sales trainer)
Far too often we allow the opinions of others to prohibit us from accomplishing our
deep inner potential.
In short, most people place limitations on themselves and then transfer those limitations to others by discouraging them from striving to do more. It is obvious that they must do so, or be faced with the truth than if another can accomplish it, then so could they.
The only true limitation for most of us is the limitation we place on ourselves.
We must eliminate the I cant's from our vocabulary, our thought - belief system.
Guiding and directing our thoughts, controlling our tongue is the key. This may sound overly simple but the truth is that it requires conscious effort, it is work.
Take the bull by the horns. Embrace the challenge. Reach down inside yourself and
incorporate a love for the battle.
Set your sights on the highest vision. Dream great dreams, and set forth on the path
that will bring them to fruition.
Obstacles will present themselves, discouragement will come. This is to be expected.
Gird yourself with the self affirmations, I can, I will, I am.
Fight the good fight. Know that no vision, no hope, no dream can be formed within the mind without the means to achieve it being available.
Do not allow the pebbles on your path cause you to falter or give up.
Setbacks may be common and frustration a constant companion, push forward despite these things, greatness is not achieved in giant leaps and bounds but by doggedly taking one small step after another.
In the end success comes to the ones who refuse to give up.
The ones who will not allow others to determine their potential.
A person's worth is contingent upon who he is, not upon what he does, or how much he has. The worth of a person, or a thing, or an idea, is in being, not in doing, not in having.
~ Alice Mary Hilton ~
Takers ultimately lose, but givers win forever. This is a rule the universe never breaks. Douglas M. Lawson
Success is measured not by what you get but rather by what you give.
Unless you're willing to have a go, fail miserably, and have another go, success won't happen.
A stumble may prevent a fall.
When you make a mistake, don't look back at it long. Take the reason of the thing into your mind, and then look forward. Mistakes are lessons of wisdom. The past cannot be changed. The future is yet in your power.
Phyllis Bottome (1884-1963, American Writer)
No one ever attains very eminent success by simply doing what is required of him; it is the amount and excellence of what is over and above the required that determines the greatness of ultimate distinction.
Charles Kendall Adams
When we accept tough jobs as a challenge and wade into them with joy and enthusiasm, miracles can happen.
Wherever you go, go with all your heart.
Confucius (BC 551-479, Chinese Ethical Teacher, Philosopher)